This is finally it.

You’ve got a tween.

Your sweet, curious kid is now a whole emotional universe. And you're not sure what planet you're on anymore.

Some days you're asking yourself:

• Is this normal?

• Did I mess something up?

• Are they already turning into a teenager?

• Am I just repeating my own childhood?

And underneath it all, there’s a deeper hope:

• That your Black tween grows up joyful, empowered, and whole, even in a world that tries, every day, to shrink them.

• That they know how to feel their feelings and recover from their mistakes

• That they believe in their own greatness and know you have their back.

But what happens when your own childhood gets loud in your parenting? What if you’re parenting through anxiety, trauma, shame, or stories you were never allowed to rewrite?

It’s a tightrope walk that you’re on. You’re not alone in this journey, but you know that you have more weight on you to build a compassionate human.

Welcome to Shame Proof Parenting

This is where your healing and theirs can meet.

Hi, I’m Dr. Mercedes. I’m not a parent, and I’m proudly child-free by choice.

But I am someone who’s spent my life helping Black families unlearn harmful parenting scripts and relearn how to raise whole humans with care, compassion, and cultural clarity.

I created this space for Black parents like you: parents doing the real work of breaking cycles of generational trauma, choosing emotional safety over control, and raising kids with tools many of us didn’t grow up with.

I’m here to support you in:

• Reparenting yourself while you’re still in the thick of parenting

• Learning how trauma, shame, and cultural messaging show up in your family

• Building a parenting style rooted in joy, accountability, and liberation

• Raising your tween with boundaries that protect, not punish

I may not be your child’s parent. But I am the adult child you're raising, and the therapist, advocate, and AfroNerd here to walk beside you on this journey.

What Makes This Space Different?

Shame Proof Parenting is:

• Culturally expansive

• Trauma-informed

• Anti-oppressive

• Rooted in trauma-informed therapy, mental wellness, and emotional literacy

Because parenting Black tweens isn’t just about behavior, it’s about power, identity, and hope.

And you deserve more than survival. You deserve support.

Take a deep breath. You don’t have to carry this alone.

Explore below to start building a shame-proof family, one brave choice at a time.

Ready to Learn, Heal, and Parent Differently?